20 lessons learned from 2020

While 2020 really whacked us out of our comfort zones and dislodged us from the familiar path, the isolation from others and sheltering with the family allowed a lot of introspection.

The whirl of busyness of our once normal lives painfully snatched this away from us. As a family, we veered away from talking about resolutions and instead looked at 20 lessons we learned from 2020. The following are what I learned with my two daughters:

All experiences deliver lesson that shape our present self. Whether the experience is good or bad, happy or sad, easy or difficult, loving or trying, exciting or discomforting, there are always lessons to be learned.

Surrender and let go. You only suffer more when you hold on instead of move on. There is no use crying over spilled milk. The past is done. You cannot undo whatever has been done. The future, on the other hand, is uncertain and there are a lot of things beyond your control. Let go and let God.

Gratitude is the right attitude. Blessings are all around you. You are even a walking vessel of blessings. You are healthy, you have all your senses functioning. You can walk. You can talk. You can see. When you see the good all the time, you attract more good.

You are more powerful than you think. What you think about all the time, manifests itself.

Never stop yourself from trying new things. Do not put limits. When your mind tells you you are too old or it‘s too late, remember that it is better to try and fail than always ponder on “what if.”

Your thoughts, just like your emotions, are real and they flow and change. They do not define who you are. Do not easily label yourself as anxious, bitter, insecure, angry or shameful. Let go of the thoughts that do not serve you.

People are not always on the same path or level of understanding. Most misunderstandings or arguments result from this, causing you to get hurt or disappointed. Remember that you cannot control a person and his actions, but you certainly can control your reaction.

Do not overthink about how people perceive you or what they think about you. Mine often than not, it‘s all in your head and causing you unnecessary anxiety. Be true to yourself. Be authentic.

Trust the process when it comes to making yourself better, whether it‘s mind mastery, weight management or spiritual growth. Discipline and constant practice are necessary since improvement means a shift to a higher or better level. Educate yourself through research, books, podcasts and support groups.

Take care of your body. It is hard to feel good mentally and emotionally when you do not feel great physically. Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Get in touch with your breathing. Exercise regularly.