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20 lessons learned from 2020

By MYLENE MENDOZA-DAYRIT, The Philippine STAR Published Jan 11, 2021 4:00 pm

While 2020 really whacked us out of our comfort zones and dislodged us from the familiar path, the isolation from others and sheltering with the family allowed a lot of introspection.

The whirl of busyness of our once normal lives painfully snatched this away from us. As a family, we veered away from talking about resolutions and instead looked at 20 lessons we learned from 2020. The following are what I learned with my two daughters:

All experiences deliver lesson that shape our present self. Whether the experience is good or bad, happy or sad, easy or difficult, loving or trying, exciting or discomforting, there are always lessons to be learned.

Surrender and let go. You only suffer more when you hold on instead of move on. There is no use crying over spilled milk. The past is done. You cannot undo whatever has been done. The future, on the other hand, is uncertain and there are a lot of things beyond your control. Let go and let God.

Gratitude is the right attitude. Blessings are all around you. You are even a walking vessel of blessings. You are healthy, you have all your senses functioning. You can walk. You can talk. You can see. When you see the good all the time, you attract more good.

  There are miracles to be experienced every day when you enjoy the little things.

You are more powerful than you think. What you think about all the time, manifests itself.

Never stop yourself from trying new things. Do not put limits. When your mind tells you you are too old or it‘s too late, remember that it is better to try and fail than always ponder on “what if.”

Your thoughts, just like your emotions, are real and they flow and change. They do not define who you are. Do not easily label yourself as anxious, bitter, insecure, angry or shameful. Let go of the thoughts that do not serve you.

People are not always on the same path or level of understanding. Most misunderstandings or arguments result from this, causing you to get hurt or disappointed. Remember that you cannot control a person and his actions, but you certainly can control your reaction.

Do not overthink about how people perceive you or what they think about you. Mine often than not, it‘s all in your head and causing you unnecessary anxiety. Be true to yourself. Be authentic.

Trust the process when it comes to making yourself better, whether it‘s mind mastery, weight management or spiritual growth. Discipline and constant practice are necessary since improvement means a shift to a higher or better level. Educate yourself through research, books, podcasts and support groups.

Take care of your body. It is hard to feel good mentally and emotionally when you do not feel great physically. Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Get in touch with your breathing. Exercise regularly. 

Gratitude is the right attitude. Blessings are all around you. You are even a walking vessel of blessings. You are healthy, you have all your senses functioning. You can walk. You can talk. You can see. When you see the good all the time, you attract more good.

Heal. 2020 was the year of healing — for the planet and people. We all have a shadow self composed of subconscious beliefs we need to heal.

Rewiring your brain is possible through repeated affirmations. You become what you believe. You believe what you keep exposing yourself to. What you watch, what you read, what you listen to. So if you want to be more optimistic, immerse yourself in books, videos and podcasts that will help you become that .

Be present with your blessings — that is the secret to continuous bliss. The practice of being fully aware of the present, and not living in the past or the future, and just celebrating the blessings of today can change your perspective.  

You are always free no matter where you are, even in lockdown. Travel may have been restricted physically, but you are still free to see the world virtually through pictures and videos or through travel books.  

There are miracles to be experienced every day when you enjoy the little things. 

Don’t overcomplicate things. People overcomplicate a lot of things. We can work less and live more. 

Slow down. Slowing down is necessary to allow rest and sustainable growth. 

Your internal state is not dependent on external circumstances. Your titles, possessions, certificates and diplomas do not define you.

Know who your real friends are. You learn who are really important to you by who you keep in your life at this time. Friends are plenty when times are good. In times of difficulty, the true ones stay.

Save… not just for the rainy days.

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