Slater Young elicits various reactions after saying it's 'very, very normal' for taken men to fantasize about other women
Trigger warning: This article contains mentions of sexual harassment.
Filipino television personality Slater Young elicited various reactions after saying it's "very, very normal" for men to fantasize about other women while in a relationship.
In the May 8 episode of the skypodcast with his wife, entrepreneur Kryz Uy, an anonymous listener told the couple that her boyfriend is part of a group chat in which he and his friends talk about women with big butts and breasts and jokes about "f**ing with certain girls."
The listener said they debate about it every now and then, only to call her "isip-bata" and "crazy."
In response, Young appears to have taken the boyfriend's side, saying he's "being absolutely honest" and that such kind of group chats are "very, very normal."
As an example, Young said that in a group chat of 10 people, there may be two or three members who'd send out such material.
"Siyempre ikaw, as part of that group, sakyan mo lang," he noted. "Wala naman, hindi mo naman gusto talaga."
He said he and Uy also tend to talk about how handsome or pretty one can be.
“Kryz and I talk about that," he said. "It’s normal. ‘Oh, do you find her attractive?’ It’s just a fact of life that there many other women more attractive than you.”
As for Uy, she said that in her own group chat, some of her single friends send photos of "cute" guys. She then replies to them to prevent "crickets."
She said she also doesn't check Young's phone, particularly the group chats he's in, "to protect her peace" inasmuch as she trusts that he won't be unfaithful.
The couple advised the listener to stop making her worries "a big issue," as long as her boyfriend didn't do anything wrong.
Young has become a hot topic online since the release of their controversial podcast. While a few netizens agreed with him, many took him to task for his remarks.
"Nakakatrigger yung podcast," a Twitter user said. "How is it normal to have group chats where ‘some’ of your friends randomly send girls’ pics to fantasize with?"
Sociologist Ash Presto, meanwhile, said such activities in group chats are considered harassment, which is punishable under Republic Act No. 11313 or the Safe Spaces Act.
Presto shared a screenshot of Section 3 (e), which defines gender-based online sexual harassment as "an online conduct targeted at a particular person that causes or likely to cause another mental, emotional or psychological distress, and fear of personal safety, sexual harassment acts including unwanted sexual remarks and comments, threats, uploading or sharing of one’s photos without consent, video and audio recordings, cyberstalking and online identity theft."
In a follow-up tweet, Presto said Young's mindset "encourages and empowers sexual predators while doing the opposite for women and girls."
"His words are also invalidating of, and triggering to, victim-survivors of online and image-based harassment," she added. "This content is dangerous. We should not take this sitting down."
Young became famous for his stint on reality show Pinoy Big Brother in 2012. He married Uy in 2019. They have two children together.